Unknown Outcome + Pressure + Noise = Overwhelm
I listened to a brilliant podcast recently that really got me thinking about being in an overwhelmed state… It really got me thinking deeply and the message was so clear.
How many of us just wing things and hope we accomplish what we want to accomplish at the end – or we just hope that we keep moving, hopefully forward, as we’re juggling so many balls. It feels as though if you drop a ball or stop juggling, everything will fall apart. I’ve been known to say ‘the more I do, the more I can do’. I really thought this was true.
Now I don’t think this is entirely true. I think I’m afraid to stop moving for fear that I won’t be accomplishing anything (or everything) as that TO DO list is never ending and I don’t want it to get beyond control and take over my life (my organised brain wouldn’t cope!). According to Alex Charfen who is a super intelligent being who talks about overwhelm and coping among many other things in his Entrepreneurial Personality Types (go here if you want to hear more) on this podcast with Joe Polish, he hit the nail on the head for me.
When dealing with overwhelm, you need to know your destination – where are you headed? How will you know you’re there if you don’t know where you’re going? Once you know where you’re going, this creates momentum, you feel better and sure of your direction and the steps that need to be done. There’s something to be said for making a decision. It doesn’t have to be the right decision all the time, but once you make one you can move and find out if you’re headed in the right direction. Ironically where you end up is usually where you’re meant to be and this step leads to the next one.
The flip side of overwhelm is CONFIDENCE! So, if you can clarify where you are, see where you’re going next, the path will appear. Your strengths and abilities will start to develop and help you on this path. How many times have you taken a while to make a decision, then you make it and poof, you get excited and can’t believe you tortured yourself for so long! This new confidence enables you to ask for help and gives you the tools to create a community. We are not solo beings, we need each other and other people’s strengths are our weaknesses, we need to find our place wherever that may be.
The key is to daily lower pressure and noise and simplify your life to really see what’s important and put your time and energy into these. Create communities so you find environments that make you feel a little uncomfortable – then you really know you’re alive – and keep the momentum and confidence growing and building. You should strive to always evolve yourself and you shouldn’t be surprised by the magic that appears.
As a mother of school-aged children my role is evolving and I’m constantly looking for answers and ways to make sense of the chaos that is my life so any little nuggets that grab my (oh look there’s a squirrel) attention are so welcome and I know they appear when I need them! I’m looking for the lessons and trying not to have to repeat them too often so I hope you get something out of my over-r-whelm ramblings…
Thank you Alex Charfen and Joe Polish.